1.If there’s one thing I really don’t understand, it’s when people get the idea in their head that everyone falls into some sort of dichotomy. It goes a little like this- if you know someone’s gay, you may assume that person is a Democrat, that that person is not a Christian, that that person would be more likely to be a vegetarian.

Let me clear this one up right away- being gay defines one part of someone’s life. Just one.

Being homosexual affects whether a person is attracted to their own gender or someone else’s. It does not affect their politics. It does not affect their religion. It does not affect their eating habits.

Being a gay male does not mean this person must speak a certain way, dress a certain way, act a certain way, or live any specific lifestyle. No, he might not fit the gay guy model that many people have in their mind. He might not have a feminine voice, have the best fashion sense, act less masculine, or have tons of meaningless sexual relationships. It just means he has physical and or romantic interests in other men.

Being a gay female does not mean this person must speak a certain way, dress a certain way, act a certain way, or live any specific lifestyle either. No, she may not meet the lesbian model that many people have in their mind. She might not have a low voice, wear lots of plaid and crocs, act more masculine, or be a man-hater. It just means she has physical and or romantic interests in other women.

That’s right, there’s such a thing as gay guys with bad fashion and lesbians who never wear plaid. There’s also such a thing as Christian Republicans who enjoy meat.

Your ideas of what a homosexual person is supposed to be like do not matter because no one falls into every category you make up in your mind. Your ideas of whether it is morally acceptable to be homosexual also do not matter. Do you know why?

2. There are LGBT kids out there being bullied for it every single day. I don’t care what sort of life choices someone makes, but it never should result in bullying. Do news reports fill up with vegetarians being beaten up? When’s the last time you heard about a kid being driven to suicide for being a Democrat? But for some reason, just because some people believe that homosexuality is wrong, it becomes okay for bullying and harassment to exist. It’s okay because the victim brought it on themselves.

These kids suffering from bullying and adults from harassment are sometimes even killed for their supposed “wrong-doing” of being a homosexual. Sometimes the harassment and bullying drives these people to suicide. No, it is not just another gay kid feeling guilty for being gay, it’s a human being that was tortured until the point where they no longer believed life could get better.


Let me clarify something here- your opinion becomes irrelevant when lives are at risk.

So now it’s time to look at what this means for you, whether you’re straight, gay, Christian, atheist, believe homosexuality is wrong, are a gay ally, or any combination of traits.

3. There are changes that need to be put in place, and your personal beliefs about homosexuality are irrelevant. No one is asking you to go out making speeches or recanting your beliefs that homosexuality is immoral. All that’s being asked is that you remember your place in everyone else’s lives- your opinion doesn’t have to matter to them, and if it does, use that power wisely.

So let’s say that you don’t believe that homosexuality is moral. Does that mean that people around you living that life are somehow affecting you? Because I’ve lived around many gay people and I’ve never seen any straight people’s lives fall apart because of it.

Even if you believe that homosexuality is a sin, or some form of wrongdoing, is it your job to police the world? Do you point out everyone else’s faults? If so, do you really think that your opinion will somehow change a homosexual person’s life? The only change you bring about is a feeling of rejection by continuing to announce your hate for a person.

Now, some people will argue that they are not spreading hate with this act. They will say that they love the sinner, hate the sin. This can be true, but is your voice really needed? Are you the judge? The answer is no. Your opinion wasn’t asked for. Anyone you point out a supposed flaw in could just as easily turn around and point out one of your flaws.

So next time you feel led to make your beliefs about homosexuality known, remember this- your opinion doesn’t change anything. Maybe to make a change in the world you should consider donating to a cause that helps kids who are being bullied instead of going out on a protest or commenting on an Internet post with how homosexuals are immoral. Which of those things seems more productive? Which one of those will save lives?

To summarize…

People get an over-inflated view of their own importance. Your views are not shared by the rest of the world unanimously, and you should accept this. Your ideas should not be legislated unless they protect lives. No one has died from being homosexual. No, but they have died from being harassed by the very people that are going out attempting to prove what the “correct morality” is. And no one fits in your quaint ideas of what they should look like. Diversity makes the world more interesting.

What kind of change do you want to make in the world?