There is a fine line between a “Daddy's Girl” and a “Father's Daughter”. Many say it's the same, just different words, but I beg to differ. A Daddy's Girl is a girl who prefers or loves her dad more. The girls are similar to their dad and treated like a princess. A Father's Daughter is a woman who becomes her father, and not a good kind of become, even if she didn't want to turn into him. How would I know? Because I am a Father's Daughter.

If you haven't figured it out by now, this isn't an article about the difference between “Daddy's Girl” and “Father's Daughter”. This is about me, and how I dealt with being a Father's Daughter and having daddy issues at the same time. I know that the beginning has nothing to do with what I'm going to say, but wouldn't it be weird to start with “I have daddy issues, and I'm going to complain about it.” So let me share my story, thank you.

My father raised me. While my mom worked in the morning he cared for me, since he worked at night it felt like he never left. Yet, he wasn't a good father or husband, I knew that. Since the age of six, I have told my other to get a divorce on and on. It was late 2021 my mom told me my dad would stay away from us since he “got COVID”. I believed her because I was only 10-11 years old. Until my dad came to my birthday in December 2022; I didn't see him until January 2022.

During that time I had figured out that my dad lived in another house, so it was weird seeing him back in my home. Until he fell asleep, I opened my dad's phone to see pictures of his dog. But I didn't find that, I found something that traumatized me and my 12-year-old brain. It was pictures of a woman, a naked woman. She was lying on top of him, he was most likely naked as well. And there were more things on his phone, things I wished I didn't see. After that day, I didn't talk to him as much and distanced myself from him. Until December of 2022, I stopped talking to him completely.

I used to promise myself as a kid, I would never turn into him. I won't turn into him. It didn't work out well though, at 11 I tried a vape from my friend for the first time. Somehow, I liked it. Then I didn't touch one until I turned 13. After I stopped talking to my dad I started to vape again, and I loved it. I slowly realized I was turning into my dad and I didn't want to, but I couldn't stop. It was inevitable, I was going to turn into him.

I'm 14 now, I started to talk to my dad back in January 2024. And I realized I was becoming my dad, and I couldn't do anything about it. It wasn't only the smoking, it was the lying, it was threats, it was a lot more. I am my father's daughter, and I'm proud of it. For some sick and insane reason, I'm proud of it. I know when I'm older, I will become him, why? Cause I love his life, he works as a manager in a club working side by side with the owner and I could see myself taking his position one day, he has many friends and connections with people and I could see myself being like that, I can see myself becoming him. But I don't want to.

I want to be my person and have my own life. I'm a father's daughter. I'm different, but I'm the same. I like to read and write, but he made me love books. I'm interested in the physiology of the human mind and I want to become a therapist to help people, he always asked me physiological questions and told me to always think about what another person feels as a child. I like track ice skating and badminton, but he always told me to move and be healthy. I love to fight, but he trained me to become a kickboxer. I like to think he molded me into what I am or just noticed the little things and encouraged me to make them bigger. I'm my Father's Daughter, and I'm proud.