Hello everyone! My name is Mollie Lor. I am a first generation Hmong child from refugee parents. Being a first generation has its struggles. I mean it. My parents always expect me to be perfect when I'm really not. They want me to understand everything in my culture and I try to, but they never even taught me Hmong growing up; which has lead me to be really embarrassed about speaking Hmong now because I don't know how to pronounce things correctly. This piece is something I think a lot of Hmong girls can relate to. In Hmong culture, women are the caretakers. They are the heart of the home and do all the house work. A "Nyab 10K" was a term that was used back in the day ALL THE WAY BACK on the motherland(Laos, Thailand, China, and Vietnam). Back in the day, men would have to pay 10K to marry a women who knows how to do EVERYTHING. Like the women would have to know how to cook, clean, take care of children, kill animals for food, perfectly clean a chicken, all the classic house wife things. A lot of Hmong OG's really stick to this tradition, especially if they are still Shaman. Also, the whole thing about going back to Laos and Thailand to find a husband IS REAL! A lot of the time, men from Laos and Thailand will only want to "marry" you just to come to the US. They most likely will leave you once they get their citizenship. The whole part in the beginning is VERY much true. Every time my parents want to host a big party, even my birthday, me and my sisters are ALWAYS stuck with doing the dishes. Even ON MY BIRTHDAY! Crazy, right?